Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Weaver, Party of ?

A few posts ago I asked you if you had any questions for me about our adoption journey.

It's funny how three of the questions asked are the very questions I've been purposefully avoiding here on the blog.

But here it goes!

What ages are you willing to accept?  Are there any conditions that you are not willing to accept when it comes to adopting?

Adoption is a funny thing in that you have some control over what type of children you bring into your home.  At the beginning of this journey we had to sit down and answer these two questions for ourselves.  There were pages and pages of conditions and behaviors that we had to consider.  It became clear to us very quickly that no matter what child or group of children they match us with, we are going to pray about it.

The easy answer to both of these questions is that we are willing to accept whatever children God has for us.

But that seems like I'm not really answering your questions doesn't it.

Ages?  We are truly wide open on this one.  We feel more drawn to older children because they are harder to find homes for than the little ones.  We also feel like this might be a bit more doable for us since I'm a teacher.  The kids simply ride to school with me.  No worry about day cares.  We will have the same schedule - even days off.

Conditions?  There aren't really in specific conditions that we are currently saying no to, however we have to be realistic.  If a child has some pretty heavy medical needs, we might not be the best family for him or her simply because of where we live.  They probably need to be closer to some amazing doctors.

Again, right now our answer is that we will pray about it and see what God wants us to do.

We believe God will make it very clear who is supposed to become part of our family.

With that being said there is a group that God has placed on our hearts.  

If they have not found their forever home before we are open and ready to adopt, we plan to inquire about them as soon as we are open.

That leads me to the next question...the one that I've been a little fearful to answer here on the blog.

How many children do you want to eventually adopt?

The sibling group that God has placed on our hearts is a large sibling group.  Large enough that you may very well think we are crazy when you hear the number.  It's why I'm a bit fearful.

But God has given both of us peace about seeking adoption of this group.  No matter how crazy it sounds or looks, we believe that God is leading us to pursue these beautiful babies.

So are you sitting down?


We are currently praying about a sibling group of ten.   

Oh it makes my heart explode with happiness when I think about having a big ol' family.

They range in ages from 6 to 16.  There are three sets of twins.

I've always wanted twins.

No matter how many we adopt, right now we feel like this is a one time deal.  We do not see ourselves going through this process a second time.  God might change our hearts on that, but right now our plan is just this one time.

When will we have children in our home?

Good question.  And I wish I knew the answer.  Oh how I wish I knew the answer.  We have officially completed our PRIDE (foster/adoption) training.

 We will attend CPR training later this month.  Other than that we are at a standstill until our background checks come back.

Will you pray with me that those come back quickly?  It's hard to wait when all you want to do is bring your children home and love on them.  I hate that they are still sitting there waiting, not knowing that we want them to be a part of our family.

Once our background checks come back we will go have fingerprints done.  At that point our home study will be ordered.  They are supposed to have 45-60 days to complete our home study.  When it has been completed  we will probably have a three or four week wait before we are declared an open home.

Being an open home means we are ready to be matched with a group of siblings.  

So ideally we hope to have kids sometime this spring.  We would LOVE it if God's plan was for them join our family at the end of the school year, but we know oh so well that God's timing is better than our own.

I'm going to end this post by saying thank you again.  I've heard stories where families adopt with ZERO support from their family and friends.  That is not our story at all.  We are covered with support and we are so thankful.  It means more to us than you could possibly know.

So thank you!

We love you all!


  1. TEN!!! Oh Bless your hearts! I pray for you and your future kids!

  2. Well...I was the 12th child my mother gave birth to and she and dad raise 11 of us in a 3 bedroom house with one bathroom. If you want to know how to make it work with a large family I'm available to tell you how we did it. Honestly, I can't imagine it any other way because I didn't experience any other way. It was (and still is) great to be part of a large family. God will bless you!!!!!

  3. 10 children, that IS crazy! But then again, so is pretty much every step you take in faith during the adoption process. Best wishes as you continue to move forward in your journey!

  4. We have 10, but ours came 1 or 2 at a time, over the course of 21 years. I can't imagine going from 0-10. I learned so much with my first and second kids... and then my 3rd knocked me on my butt anyway, lol.

    There's a blog you should read... I can't remember the name of it, but they adopted a couple sibling groups, and they've got 12 at home now.

  5. Oh, wow! Twins galore! As an identical twin myself, I can tell you that'd be LOTS of fun :-) Good for you for following -- and listening to -- your heart.

  6. Sometimes crazy is what you need. And if you're preparing for that large of a sibling group, than you'll be over prepared if you get a smaller one. Praying for short waits for you and peace in the waiting. Looking forward to following the rest of your journey :)
    Amber at OurCharmedLife.net

  7. Ten! Wow! Thanks for linking up with #AdoptionTalk and sharing your story!