Thursday, January 2, 2014

What Makes A Good Wife?

What makes a woman a good wife?

According to there are ten qualities that a woman must have to be a good wife

10. Quit Nagging
9. Look Good, Charm Him
8. Be Unpredictable, Surprise Him Often
7. Organize the House, Be a Good Maid
6. All the Pleasant Qualities, Be Kind
5. A Guy Needs His Space
4. Sexual Intimacy is Important Too
3. Don't Hide Your Love
2. Be Open With Your Feelings
1. Compatibility

What if you only possess 9 of the above 10 qualities?  Are you still a good wife?

What if you only possess half of the qualities?  Or just one of the qualities?

Is being a good wife even one of your goals?

Have you ever watched the movie Courageous?  If not I highly recommend it.  Just be sure you have a box of tissue close by.  Maybe even two boxes. 

There are two lines in the trailor that stick out to me.

 "I want to know what God expects of me"

"I don't want to be a good enough father"

The qualities above of a good wife are great.  Nothing on the list is a bad quality to possess.  But I think they make a good enough wife.  

The main character in Courageous doesn't want to be a good enough father.

Well I don't want to be a good enough wife. 

I want to be the best possible wife I can be.

I want to be the wife God has called me to be.

I want to know what God expects of me.

We are blessed.

We don't have to guess at what makes a good wife.  We don't have to go by some bogus list that comes up in a google search.

God tells us exactly how to be a good wife in his Word.

This quote jumped off the page at me last night as I was reading in Wife After God.

I was reminded that in and of myself I can only be a good enough wife.  I can't be the best wife possible without letting God in my marriage.

I have to be willing to let God mold me into what He wants me to be.  

He is the potter.  I'm just the clay. 
(Isaiah 64:8)

Each day's devotional in this book starts with scripture.  I always write the verses in my own words in my journal.

Last night I felt like God was telling me to go a step further.  To make it personal.  

So I wrote the verses like this.

Andrew can trust me.  I will greatly enrich his life.  I will bring him good, not harm all the days of my life.  
Proverbs 31:11-12

I will not get tired of doing what is good.  I will reap a harvest at just the right time. 
Galatians 6:9

I must accept Andrew's authority so that I might be an example to others.  
1 Peter 3:1-2

Wow!  Talk about being powerful.  Making the scripture about Andrew & me? 

 That's personal.  

That's real!

My verse & prayer for 2014 comes from the book of James.

I want 2014 to be the year where I'm closer to God than I've ever been.  I'm believing Him when he says he will draw near to me.  I pray that as I draw near He will show me how to be more than a good enough wife.  


  1. Love this!!! Thanks for sharing :)

  2. Great post!!! Thanks for sharing! PS James 4:8 is the same thing I posted about today ;)