Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Our Timeline

Several people have asked about our timeline for adoption.  How soon will we have kids in our home?  When will they officially be Weavers?

Though I know they are inquiring about the process of adoption and not necessarily our plan I can't help but want to answer with an explanation that it is not our timeline.

Our timeline was to have a baby in our home already.  Maybe two.  A baby that was the perfect combination of Andrew and me.  A baby that didn't have to wait to officially be a Weaver.

Growing our family isn't being done on our timeline.  Our family is growing on God's timeline and in His way.  

If I have learned anything over the past few years it is the truth of Proverbs 16:9

I am a planner.  There are few things that make me happier than a cute new planner to start the year off right.  Organization makes me giddy.  Having a plan gives me a sense of security.

Andrew and I planned our first child.  It was perfect.

Or so we thought.

To be honest it still seems like our plan was a pretty good one.  But I can't see the bigger picture.

Adoption may seem like our Plan B, but it has been God's Plan A all along.  This journey is what he  had waiting for us all along.  Its what he has been preparing us for.  It's not the next best thing.  It is the best thing.

Sometimes it feels like we have jumped into this journey without much thought or planning because the decision was made so quickly and that can be uncomfortable.  But I have seen God in every step of this journey.  I have felt Him whisper to me that this is how he planned to grow our family all along.

And that brings me more happiness than any plan Andrew and I have ever had.  

There is joy in obedience.

And I believe that saying yes to this journey is just that.  Obedience.  I know we are doing exactly what we are supposed to be doing.

So when you ask about our timeline or if we are really willing to take a teenager, when you ask if we are sure we want to adopt multiple children all at once, you may be thinking we are a little crazy.

It's okay.  We've thought that too.  But at the end of the day, we know we are on God's timeline.  We have story after story of "crazy" obedience in the Bible that lets us know obedience always works out for the best - for the glory of God.  Just look at Noah - building an ark for a flood when he had never seen rain.  Or how about Abraham setting out not knowing where he was going, waiting on a promised son throughout his old age?  I'm sure they looked crazy to those around them.

So when will we have kids in our home?  Andrew and I have our plan, but we know in the end we will have kids in our home in God's perfect timing.

For now we wait expectantly.


  1. I love your faith Elaina, This is such a beautiful post for so many reasons!

  2. "There is joy in obedience." Oh sister, how true this is. I have said this so many times (to myself and others) over the last month. All we have to do is listen and then obey and out of that comes peace and joy and all those other lovely fruits. :)

    Proud of you and Drew.

    Love you!

  3. My husband and I adopted our two sons through foster care. I could have written these words myself. There IS joy in obedience! Keep that perspective and you will see His glory.

    1. Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment. I've seen your blog name on my sister in law's Jill's blog before. I would love to read your blog and talk with you more about adopting through foster care.